But is it real?

These days, you can’t say nothing real without being labelled a hater, jealous or judgemental.

I had a conversation with someone who promotes “self love” but was wanting plastic surgery because she didnt like the way her nose was.

If you know me, I am always encouraging women around me to embrace what they have and not to allow what society says is beautiful effect the way they see themselves and I will tell you what I really feel if you’re asking me for advice.

Now, all I said was – “how you going to promote self love when you don’t even love yourself?”

She got really upset with me and said that I sound like those haters and I’m just being judgemental.
And that I “don’t understand”.

Now maybe she’s right? But I really feel that’s a valid question?

It’s easy to tell people to love themself when you’ve got fake boobs, fake butt etc but what message are you sending our younger generations?

Are we moulding ourselves to become these perfect looking beings while we’re wasting away and broken on the inside?

I’m tired of seeing the same look on social media.

Everybody looking like clones.
Everybody wanting to look the same.

Afraid of being different from the crowd.
Ashamed of having no likes or comments saying how hot or beautiful they are.

It’s a sham.
It ain’t real.

And I know people will hate me for this but I’m not going to encourage cutting up your temples to be worshiped by others.

Trust me when I say, cutting your nose up won’t fix the real issue.

You will keep finding things that you hate about yourself and keep cutting up or changing the way you look until you’re a totally different person to who God intended you to be then you’ll realise, it’s too late to go back.

You gotta find the root to these weeds killing your growth sisters!

You have to appreciate what you have and acknowledge that you don’t have to be everything to everyone else, you just have to mean something to yourself and have enough confidence to know that you were fearfully and wonderfully made.

Bless up❤

Security.

Walking towards a couple at the supermarket today and as I got closer, the lady grabbed her man’s hand then looked at me😏😣

Like sis, can you not see my 100 kids and my trolley is full of nappies, wipes, 34 pack of toilet paper and school lunch?? 😂 relax!

Ladies, not every girl you come across, wants your man!

We all got different taste.

Say you like apples and I like oranges.

Whether the apple is in a pie, a juice or a fruit salad, I still won’t like apples.

And you shouldn’t have to hold your man’s hand for me to know he’s taken.

His actions should speak for themselves.

We are often left feeling insecure when we’ve been cheated on, mistreated and lied to.

Times where our trust and heart has been broken.

I get it sis, I been there.

But when you stop putting your value into the hands of a man, and allowing God to heal your heart, you’ll find so much security in your life, and the presence of another woman in your man’s life, becomes his problem, not yours.

Stop carrying unnecessary thoughts and thinking of scenarios that don’t exist.

Any time you feel threatened, unworthy or insecure, remember your worth in the eye’s of God, you were so precious to Him that He gave His one and only Son so that you would not perish but have eternal life.

So if your man fails, let your faith prevail❤🙏

Keep the past, in the past.

Person: Did you know she had a baby at 16 and use to be in the club’s every weekend and now she’s all of a sudden about Jesus? *scoffs*

Me: Did you know that I had a baby at 17 and use to be in the club’s Monday to Saturday and now “all of a sudden” about Jesus too? *smirks*

People please, don’t judge the walk of your brothers and sisters.

What are you hoping to achieve by telling others about someone’s past?

Use your time to build each other up and encourage their change for Christ.

The things I share on here, are not coming from a place of judgement, or speaking from a pedestal, thinking I’m better than you.

It’s coming from a place of understanding, and speaking from experience, on a platform knowing you can do better than that!

Don’t come to me thinking I enjoy speaking bad about others for no season sis, cause that’s not how I roll✌

X’s and Y’s.

I’ve had a few request for me to share my thoughts about being friends with “exes” – the women who have been involved with the man you are currently with or a man you have been involved with.
 
My thing is this – I had no part in what has happened before me or what will happen after me, so there is no reason for me to hate these women.
 
So if you want to be friends then why not? but in saying that, you don’t have to go out of your way to be friends with them either.
 
When you’re secure in who you are, and what you stand for, the beauty, success or reputation of another women should not intimidate you, nor should it make you feel unworthy of being the “right” woman for your man.
 
When you stop seeing life as a competition and start seeing it as an opportunity to share the amazing things God has done for you and what He can do for others, you’re focus shifts from frivolous matters like the “X’s”, to searching for more important issues like the “Y’s”.
 
Like why have the cries of the West Papuan people still haven’t been heard? #FreeWestPapua
 
Why are there more and more children diagnosed with #AUSTISM each year and still no known cause?
 
Why are we losing so many kids to #SUICIDE?
 
These things become paramount and wake my spirit up.
Not exes, not petty wars over whose better than who.
 
Real life problems that people have no choice in.
 
You have a choice to be friends or not with “exes”, it really ain’t that deep.
 
So you either move on or dwell in unnecessary drama.
 
But my advice is to you, is choose peace over pride every time✌️

The woman behind the quotes.

Behind all the quotes I share, is a woman who is actually trying to build a real life connection with God.

A woman who is actually trying to get to a stage where she is using each breath in her being, every minute of her day to ask, talk or tell someone about Jesus Christ.

A woman who many wouldn’t recognize anymore, not because her face has changed, but because of the faith she’s gained.

The strength of known that all the stories of shame and guilt from her past, has brought her to a point in her life, where she is now able to share it with pleasure and joy knowing that someone can or will benefit from what once was her pain or her poison.

That God doesn’t just allow unnecessary pain to happen to us. It’s either a lesson for us or for someone else.

It gives her peace knowing that everything that happens to her, good or bad, isn’t always just about her.

She’s learnt that humility always wins in the eyes of her creator.

She is a completely different person, yet her goal in life still hasn’t changed and that’s to make it to heaven, or die trying.

And that woman, is me.

Treasure our elderly.

As you progress in your life, don’t forget to reflect on your actions.

Don’t forget the actions of those around you that helped you progress.

Don’t forget the sacrifice of your loved ones in your life that have helped you along the way, including Jesus.

Never forget the people that opened their hearts to help raise you and the hands that helped lift you up in prayer.

I wrote this after watching an elderly lady struggling to push her shopping cart to the supermarket on her own and it got me thinking about my nena.

While some take their parents and grandparents for granted, others are praying they still had theirs around.

Don’t forget to check in on them, even if it’s just a phone call.

As we get older, so do they.

Every day with them is a blessing so make every day with them count!

Purpose.

I asked myself : “What’s the purpose of my page? what makes it better than the rest?”

I answered : “Who said I was trying to be better than the rest? Why can’t we all be the best?

Why does everything in life have to be a game, where there are winners and losers?

I’m all about elevation, celebration and salvation.

My purpose is to kill satan’s lies and hate with God’s truth and love. I don’t care about likes and follows. I care that someone believes in being saved by the grace of God and smiling at the words of my post, without me trying to do the most.

I want to be the voice of the unheard, the overlooked, the unappreciated.

I want to create a space for Christian women to uplift eachother and share the amazing things God is doing in their lives.

That is my truth, my whole truth and nothing but the truth 🌻

Success.

We all have different versions of success.

You can’t tell me that I’m not successful because I haven’t completed the list of things that makes someone successful in your eyes.

I don’t need to put anyone down to get to the top, cause I’m not trying to head that way.

I’m not the kind of person that wants to be above anyone, or on top of the world.

God knows my heart.

I just want to help anyone that is struggling alone, hurting inside, experienced pain like me, shame like me, been played on like games like me.

Happiness and success means something different to everyone.

Money isn’t success to me.
Big house or heaps of cars is not success to me.

If you have it all and keep it all to yourself, that is not success to me.

Greed is killing our world.
Hate is burning our love and judgement is bruising our peace.

Jesus is my focus, heaven is my goal ❤

Save some compliments for yourself.

Too many of us are quick to give them out, yet we save the hate and doubt for ourselves.

Speak love into your being.

No matter how much you hate your nose or the way your thighs touch or the way you can’t look or live up to society’s expectations of “beauty”,
protect your heart.

Your heart is where the true essence of your beauty lies.

What you choose to observe with your eyes, what you choose to hear with your ears, what you choose to believe in your mind and what you choose to absorb into your being, can potentially seep into your heart and mould you into a beauty or a beast.

So be careful what you allow or put up with in your life. Surround yourself with the lovers, the nice people, the wise, the caring, the believers.

You are what you speak 💖

Focus on your own business.

These days, it’s so easy to fall into the trap of comparing lives and becoming envious of what others have when you have platforms like social media, where you get to see stories on snapchat or instagram, holiday pics on facebook and for some reason, that reminded me of window shopping.

Let’s just say we’re all business owners.

One day, you come across a fancy looking shop.

From the outside looking in, it looks very appealing and clean. Perfect in every way, no mess, no stress, every mannequin dressed to impress.

You walk into their store and straight away, you’re attracted to all the great vibes and signs they’re giving you.

“CLEARANCE SALE”, “NOTHING OVER $10” and “BUY 1 GET 1 FREE”.

You start feeling down and sad thinking about your own business, it’s not as fancy and it’s not in good condition or located in a nice area like this one.

So you start investing so much of your thoughts and energy wanting everything in that store for your own shop.

You’re almost sold on everything you see, but the closer you get to read the signs it says:

“CLEARANCE SALE… red marked items only.”

“NOTHING OVER $10….. faulty or damaged.”

“BUY 1 GET 1 FREE….only on selected styles.”

You then realise, this shop isn’t what you expected or what they made it out to be. You wished you had more faith in your own shop with all the doubt and shame you started thinking, when the fancy shop had problems just like yours, they were just better at disguising it.

Moral of the story is – Everything isn’t what it seems.

Some people like to advertise and promote all the great things that are happening in their lives, but put all the things that they’re not so confident about or proud of in small print, where it’s hardly noticable.

The truth is, all our shops could do with a bit of work, but instead of competing with eachother, we need to work together and not be afraid to open up to others and learn from eachothers mistakes.

Every shop is unique and we all have different things to offer, so don’t worry about what others have or do with their business, focus on your own and work on what you can bring to the market.

And remember “Nothing comes to sleepers, but a dream” – George Veikoso

If you want a fancy shop, work hard for it.
If you’re content with what you have, thank God for it.

God doesn’t want us to impress eachother, He wants us to love one another and be more like Jesus.

So don’t let the life your neighbour is living get you down, just focus on your own journey and keep striving for that eternal crown🙏