But is it real?

These days, you can’t say nothing real without being labelled a hater, jealous or judgemental.

I had a conversation with someone who promotes “self love” but was wanting plastic surgery because she didnt like the way her nose was.

If you know me, I am always encouraging women around me to embrace what they have and not to allow what society says is beautiful effect the way they see themselves and I will tell you what I really feel if you’re asking me for advice.

Now, all I said was – “how you going to promote self love when you don’t even love yourself?”

She got really upset with me and said that I sound like those haters and I’m just being judgemental.
And that I “don’t understand”.

Now maybe she’s right? But I really feel that’s a valid question?

It’s easy to tell people to love themself when you’ve got fake boobs, fake butt etc but what message are you sending our younger generations?

Are we moulding ourselves to become these perfect looking beings while we’re wasting away and broken on the inside?

I’m tired of seeing the same look on social media.

Everybody looking like clones.
Everybody wanting to look the same.

Afraid of being different from the crowd.
Ashamed of having no likes or comments saying how hot or beautiful they are.

It’s a sham.
It ain’t real.

And I know people will hate me for this but I’m not going to encourage cutting up your temples to be worshiped by others.

Trust me when I say, cutting your nose up won’t fix the real issue.

You will keep finding things that you hate about yourself and keep cutting up or changing the way you look until you’re a totally different person to who God intended you to be then you’ll realise, it’s too late to go back.

You gotta find the root to these weeds killing your growth sisters!

You have to appreciate what you have and acknowledge that you don’t have to be everything to everyone else, you just have to mean something to yourself and have enough confidence to know that you were fearfully and wonderfully made.

Bless up❤

Fabricated Faith.

If you’re only praying for material things, then you must only have fabricated faith.

The more I read about Jesus, the more I admire His faith.

You not only get a lesson of how to pray, but you also will notice what He didn’t pray for.

Not once did He ask for a house or a donkey to get around on, but He did ask for DAILY bread, the daily essentials.

He didn’t pray for a better tomorrow, or dwell over yesterday.

He knew His Father will provide what He needed day by day, but the prayer was important to communicate with God and to build that relationship with His Father.

We praise Him, give thanks and ask for forgiveness for ourselves and for others.

I’ve been learning to pray for what He wants me to do with my life, while asking Him to remove anything that isn’t from Him, even if it hurts me but to give me the strength and the courage to handle whatever the outcome.

Praying is like exercising.

We need it in our lives to help sustain our health mentally, physically and emotionally.

 

 

 

She’s humble, yet hungry.

Just cause you humble, doesn’t mean you have to be quiet.

Speak up when it matters.
Apologize when your wrong.

Strength isn’t shown in being loud and proud, or using violence or manipulation to scare people, it’s shown in the willingness to lose everything for the things or people you love.

Not being afraid to stand alone for your faith and belief in God.

You don’t have to conform to transform, you only need to believe and receive the good news and live by it to start seeing the true purpose of your life.

Be humble, but don’t sit down😉
Stand up, and stay hungry💪

Keep the past, in the past.

Person: Did you know she had a baby at 16 and use to be in the club’s every weekend and now she’s all of a sudden about Jesus? *scoffs*

Me: Did you know that I had a baby at 17 and use to be in the club’s Monday to Saturday and now “all of a sudden” about Jesus too? *smirks*

People please, don’t judge the walk of your brothers and sisters.

What are you hoping to achieve by telling others about someone’s past?

Use your time to build each other up and encourage their change for Christ.

The things I share on here, are not coming from a place of judgement, or speaking from a pedestal, thinking I’m better than you.

It’s coming from a place of understanding, and speaking from experience, on a platform knowing you can do better than that!

Don’t come to me thinking I enjoy speaking bad about others for no season sis, cause that’s not how I roll✌

❤🏠

Some goals can be small, but still have a big impact on your life.

Goals like keeping your house and your heart clean seems easy, but it’s something that needs constant work and a lot of attention.

You can clean your house in the morning, and by night it’s a mess. Same goes with your heart.

Whether you choose to make that goal a priority or not, it will show in other aspects of your life.

So you have a choice to either keep your heart and your home warm and filled with love and light, or keep it cold leaving it dark and empty.

Fix it Jesus.

All week this message has been playing in my heart:

“Stop trying to fix, what God is trying to mould”

For awhile now, I’ve been struggling and stressing about a loved one who has really been going through it, and no matter how much I pray or reach out and give advice, I still wasn’t at peace with the outcome.

I wasn’t able to control or fix this situation, and it was actually getting worse.

None of my advice was working, God wasn’t answering my prayers for this situation, and I wasn’t functioning mentally because of it.

Until I stepped back and remembered, that I too went through similar seasons in my youth.

It then brought me to the realisation that, had I not been through the dark times back then, I wouldn’t have turned to God the way I have now.

Meaning, maybe I need to stop trying to play God and let “Jesus fix it”.

I need to remove myself from the situation and give it to God!

You see, sometimes we want to help fix others problems and issues so bad, that we end up creating issues and problems for ourselves, because it wasn’t our business to fix in the first place.

I know this is long, but I really felt like there was someone out there going through something similar that needed this and I couldn’t sleep until I got it out of my mind (1:38am) 😅 haha

Sometimes we don’t always have to step up, sometimes we just got to step back and let God do His thang🙏

X’s and Y’s.

I’ve had a few request for me to share my thoughts about being friends with “exes” – the women who have been involved with the man you are currently with or a man you have been involved with.
 
My thing is this – I had no part in what has happened before me or what will happen after me, so there is no reason for me to hate these women.
 
So if you want to be friends then why not? but in saying that, you don’t have to go out of your way to be friends with them either.
 
When you’re secure in who you are, and what you stand for, the beauty, success or reputation of another women should not intimidate you, nor should it make you feel unworthy of being the “right” woman for your man.
 
When you stop seeing life as a competition and start seeing it as an opportunity to share the amazing things God has done for you and what He can do for others, you’re focus shifts from frivolous matters like the “X’s”, to searching for more important issues like the “Y’s”.
 
Like why have the cries of the West Papuan people still haven’t been heard? #FreeWestPapua
 
Why are there more and more children diagnosed with #AUSTISM each year and still no known cause?
 
Why are we losing so many kids to #SUICIDE?
 
These things become paramount and wake my spirit up.
Not exes, not petty wars over whose better than who.
 
Real life problems that people have no choice in.
 
You have a choice to be friends or not with “exes”, it really ain’t that deep.
 
So you either move on or dwell in unnecessary drama.
 
But my advice is to you, is choose peace over pride every time✌️

The woman behind the quotes.

Behind all the quotes I share, is a woman who is actually trying to build a real life connection with God.

A woman who is actually trying to get to a stage where she is using each breath in her being, every minute of her day to ask, talk or tell someone about Jesus Christ.

A woman who many wouldn’t recognize anymore, not because her face has changed, but because of the faith she’s gained.

The strength of known that all the stories of shame and guilt from her past, has brought her to a point in her life, where she is now able to share it with pleasure and joy knowing that someone can or will benefit from what once was her pain or her poison.

That God doesn’t just allow unnecessary pain to happen to us. It’s either a lesson for us or for someone else.

It gives her peace knowing that everything that happens to her, good or bad, isn’t always just about her.

She’s learnt that humility always wins in the eyes of her creator.

She is a completely different person, yet her goal in life still hasn’t changed and that’s to make it to heaven, or die trying.

And that woman, is me.

The difference.

29101661_10211502168651730_2852245445780963328_oYesterday I was feeling really unworthy of sharing my journey and God’s word after feeling overwhelmed with my daily struggles as a mother and also reading and hearing others negative opinions of my blog.

Although I’m not usually one to care about what people think of me, some times their words can weigh heavy on my mind and sit still on my conscience.

So while having these thoughts of giving up on my blog and deleting my page yesterday, I opened up my bible today, and this fell out.

Some times I pray for things that I want, but they’re not necessarily what I need.

Some times my prayers are automatic and memorized and not meaningful and alive.

This woke me up today!

I dropped this bookmark but this bookmark picked me up!!!

And to those negative people out there, thank you for bringing me to this point of my journey, God bless ❤🙏

Treasure our elderly.

As you progress in your life, don’t forget to reflect on your actions.

Don’t forget the actions of those around you that helped you progress.

Don’t forget the sacrifice of your loved ones in your life that have helped you along the way, including Jesus.

Never forget the people that opened their hearts to help raise you and the hands that helped lift you up in prayer.

I wrote this after watching an elderly lady struggling to push her shopping cart to the supermarket on her own and it got me thinking about my nena.

While some take their parents and grandparents for granted, others are praying they still had theirs around.

Don’t forget to check in on them, even if it’s just a phone call.

As we get older, so do they.

Every day with them is a blessing so make every day with them count!