But is it real?

These days, you can’t say nothing real without being labelled a hater, jealous or judgemental.

I had a conversation with someone who promotes “self love” but was wanting plastic surgery because she didnt like the way her nose was.

If you know me, I am always encouraging women around me to embrace what they have and not to allow what society says is beautiful effect the way they see themselves and I will tell you what I really feel if you’re asking me for advice.

Now, all I said was – “how you going to promote self love when you don’t even love yourself?”

She got really upset with me and said that I sound like those haters and I’m just being judgemental.
And that I “don’t understand”.

Now maybe she’s right? But I really feel that’s a valid question?

It’s easy to tell people to love themself when you’ve got fake boobs, fake butt etc but what message are you sending our younger generations?

Are we moulding ourselves to become these perfect looking beings while we’re wasting away and broken on the inside?

I’m tired of seeing the same look on social media.

Everybody looking like clones.
Everybody wanting to look the same.

Afraid of being different from the crowd.
Ashamed of having no likes or comments saying how hot or beautiful they are.

It’s a sham.
It ain’t real.

And I know people will hate me for this but I’m not going to encourage cutting up your temples to be worshiped by others.

Trust me when I say, cutting your nose up won’t fix the real issue.

You will keep finding things that you hate about yourself and keep cutting up or changing the way you look until you’re a totally different person to who God intended you to be then you’ll realise, it’s too late to go back.

You gotta find the root to these weeds killing your growth sisters!

You have to appreciate what you have and acknowledge that you don’t have to be everything to everyone else, you just have to mean something to yourself and have enough confidence to know that you were fearfully and wonderfully made.

Bless upโค

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Some goals can be small, but still have a big impact on your life.

Goals like keeping your house and your heart clean seems easy, but it’s something that needs constant work and a lot of attention.

You can clean your house in the morning, and by night it’s a mess. Same goes with your heart.

Whether you choose to make that goal a priority or not, it will show in other aspects of your life.

So you have a choice to either keep your heart and your home warm and filled with love and light, or keep it cold leaving it dark and empty.

Fix it Jesus.

All week this message has been playing in my heart:

“Stop trying to fix, what God is trying to mould”

For awhile now, I’ve been struggling and stressing about a loved one who has really been going through it, and no matter how much I pray or reach out and give advice, I still wasn’t at peace with the outcome.

I wasn’t able to control or fix this situation, and it was actually getting worse.

None of my advice was working, God wasn’t answering my prayers for this situation, and I wasn’t functioning mentally because of it.

Until I stepped back and remembered, that I too went through similar seasons in my youth.

It then brought me to the realisation that, had I not been through the dark times back then, I wouldn’t have turned to God the way I have now.

Meaning, maybe I need to stop trying to play God and let “Jesus fix it”.

I need to remove myself from the situation and give it to God!

You see, sometimes we want to help fix others problems and issues so bad, that we end up creating issues and problems for ourselves, because it wasn’t our business to fix in the first place.

I know this is long, but I really felt like there was someone out there going through something similar that needed this and I couldn’t sleep until I got it out of my mind (1:38am) ๐Ÿ˜… haha

Sometimes we don’t always have to step up, sometimes we just got to step back and let God do His thang๐Ÿ™

X’s and Y’s.

I’ve had a few request for me to share my thoughts about being friends with “exes” – the women who have been involved with the man you are currently with or a man you have been involved with.
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My thing is this – I had no part in what has happened before me or what will happen after me, so there is no reason for me to hate these women.
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So if you want to be friends then why not? but in saying that, you don’t have to go out of your way to be friends with them either.
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When you’re secure in who you are, and what you stand for, the beauty, success or reputation of another women should not intimidate you, nor should it make you feel unworthy of being the “right” woman for your man.
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When you stop seeing life as a competition and start seeing it as an opportunity to share the amazing things God has done for you and what He can do for others, you’re focus shifts from frivolous matters like the “X’s”, to searching for more important issues like the “Y’s”.
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Like why have the cries of the West Papuan people still haven’t been heard? #FreeWestPapua
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Why are there more and more children diagnosed with #AUSTISM each year and still no known cause?
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Why are we losing so many kids to #SUICIDE?
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These things become paramount and wake my spirit up.
Not exes, not petty wars over whose better than who.
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Real life problems that people have no choice in.
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You have a choice to be friends or not with “exes”, it really ain’t that deep.
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So you either move on or dwell in unnecessary drama.
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But my advice is to you, is choose peace over pride every timeโœŒ๏ธ

The difference.

29101661_10211502168651730_2852245445780963328_oYesterday I was feeling really unworthy of sharing my journey and God’s word after feeling overwhelmed with my daily struggles as a mother and also reading and hearing others negative opinions of my blog.

Although I’m not usually one to care about what people think of me, some times their words can weigh heavy on my mind and sit still on my conscience.

So while having these thoughts of giving up on my blog and deleting my page yesterday, I opened up my bible today, and this fell out.

Some times I pray for things that I want, but they’re not necessarily what I need.

Some times my prayers are automatic and memorized and not meaningful and alive.

This woke me up today!

I dropped this bookmark but this bookmark picked me up!!!

And to those negative people out there, thank you for bringing me to this point of my journey, God bless โค๐Ÿ™

Treasure our elderly.

As you progress in your life, don’t forget to reflect on your actions.

Don’t forget the actions of those around you that helped you progress.

Don’t forget the sacrifice of your loved ones in your life that have helped you along the way, including Jesus.

Never forget the people that opened their hearts to help raise you and the hands that helped lift you up in prayer.

I wrote this after watching an elderly lady struggling to push her shopping cart to the supermarket on her own and it got me thinking about my nena.

While some take their parents and grandparents for granted, others are praying they still had theirs around.

Don’t forget to check in on them, even if it’s just a phone call.

As we get older, so do they.

Every day with them is a blessing so make every day with them count!

Purpose.

I asked myself : “What’s the purpose of my page? what makes it better than the rest?”

I answered : “Who said I was trying to be better than the rest? Why can’t we all be the best?

Why does everything in life have to be a game, where there are winners and losers?

I’m all about elevation, celebration and salvation.

My purpose is to kill satan’s lies and hate with God’s truth and love. I don’t care about likes and follows. I care that someone believes in being saved by the grace of God and smiling at the words of my post, without me trying to do the most.

I want to be the voice of the unheard, the overlooked, the unappreciated.

I want to create a space for Christian women to uplift eachother and share the amazing things God is doing in their lives.

That is my truth, my whole truth and nothing but the truth ๐ŸŒป

Upskill, Uplift, Uphold.


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Don’t be two-faced. Introduce the gossiper in you, to the gospel in you.

Be the kind of woman that brings women together, not the kind of woman that holds the bridge to unite everyone but continues to play the role of the troll.

Go out of your way to escape from the sin, instead of making others feel uncomfortable in their skin.

Pray for God’s direction and blessings on your new ventures, pray for perserverance and passion in existing ones and pray for strength and guidance in any failed ones.

It is better to try on many hats and fail with God in your life, than to have too many faces and succeed with satan by your side.

Be you and be true and let God handle the rest๐Ÿ™Œ


 

Brother, PLEASE!

textgram_1507770064One thing that really irks me with some guys is this –

They always talking bout they want a lady in the streets, but a freak in the bed, but they want to be a freak in the bed, in the shed, and every where else chillin with Fred and Ted paying strippers for some head or hitting anything thats spreads! ๐Ÿ‘€

Brother PLEASE!๐Ÿ˜

If you want to attract a lady in the streets and a freak in sheets, you better be a gentlemen in the streets and a beast in the bed.

If you want a spiritual sister, you better be a spiritual brother.

If you want “wifey material” make sure you ain’t no “fabricated husband”.

You want a girl that can cook like your mum, ask your mum to teach you how to cook.

Don’t ask for that kind of woman, if you don’t possess the qualities to attract and keep that kind of woman.

Don’t make us feel inadequate as women, when you don’t even qualify to be a man.

But back to original question on how to find a Spiritual Sister?

Spiritual sisters are so invested in their journey with God, that you have to go to Him to get through to her.

Nothings more attractive to us than a God-fearing man, a faithful lover and a great father ๐Ÿ™Œ everything else is a bonus!

I’m worth it.

Stop bending over backwards for guys that can’t be upfront with you.

Don’t drop everything in a heartbeat for a guy that won’t lift you up in a heartbreak.

Why you tripping over a guy whose chasing other girls?

You don’t need to get into his bed, to get ahead.

Don’t leave a good man for a guy that wants a “bad bitch”.

I’m tired of seeing women being disrespected and unappreciated by some men.

No amount of years in a relationship is worth your tears. No amount of sex is worth the pain. No amount of money is worth your dignity. No amount of man is worth your woman!

We deserve to be loved right, we deserve to be held tight. We deserve someone to be there for us in the day and through the night.

Don’t waste your time questioning is he worth all the pain and shame he’s putting you through.

Naaaaw sis, are YOU worth all the pain and shame he’s putting you through!

Stop sitting on the fence of self doubt and start standing up on the roof of self love!

We are worth it โœŠ