Kill’em with kindness.

I know I’m not alone when I say that I don’t like to see my child being mistreated, I mean who does? Regardless of who is in the right or wrong, there is no reason for a parent to sit back and do nothing while their kid is hitting, snatching and saying mean things to other kids.

Today my daughter Losalia was playing with a cushion at Latitude (similar to chipmunks) when a boy (5-6yo) tries to snatch it off her. She clearly shows that she still wants it by holding onto it and they both start wrestling over it. At this point I’m thinking ok maybe the parent of that child isn’t watching so I go up to Losalia and this boy is saying “give it to me” and manages to steal it off her. So she tries to grab his foot as he goes up the ladder and is pulling him down and only at this point does his parent/caregiver show up and says to me “kids will be kids” and smiles and I fake smile back and say “it’s ok to Losalia, find something else”.

If anyone knows my baby Losalia, she is one of the most soft hearted kids you’ll ever meet. Doesn’t like confrontation or anyone fighting, so of course she went on to find something else, which broke my heart. Anyways, there are only 3 of these cushions that boy and another girl he was playing with had all 3. My baby started following them for a cushion and they were saying “go away weirdo” and “get lost you can’t play with us” numerous times and loud enough for all parents and other kids to hear and still no one said anything, so at this point my blood is boiling!!!! Then they dropped one cushion and Losalia managed to grab it and once again the boy and girl snatched it and ran off. I waited awhile to see if their parents would tell them off and no, still sitting there on their phones and chatting. So I get up, go up to both kids, snatch all 3 cushions and say “you snatch these off my daughter again, and you watch what I’ll do to you” (I wish I was mature enough not to say that but I’m not lol) and I gave them all to Losalia and she was so happy to have the cushions. I go to sit back down right next to the parents and not one of them said anything! I was so angry I felt like there was steam coming out of my ears cause of how hot my face felt. I was sitting there thinking shame on those little brats, only to look up and see my baby Losalia giving one cushion to the boy and the other to the girl and keeping the one she originally had! Which melted my heart so much! She put me and the other parents to shame with her one act of kindness 😦

I know this was super long but I just wanted to share this with everyone. Sometimes we think our babies can’t handle themselves and even though they’re being mistreated sometimes it helps them learn to be stronger or shows them how not to be!

Anyways that’s my rant for the year lol thank you for reading 😊”

Every time I read this, I think of that verse “Then he said, “I tell you the truth, unless you turn from your sins and become like little children, you will never get into the Kingdom of Heaven.” Matthew 18:3.

I was allowing my own feelings get in the way of this situation, letting my pride, my bias thoughts get in the way of how my daughter was viewing the situation with her innocent mind and intentions. We can learn a lot from our children. Their pure thoughts, their honesty and their unconditional love for us as their parents. I will never forget this moment as it was a day I not only learnt a lesson from my daughter but I learnt how powerful a simple act of kindness can defuse a situation full of hate and tension.

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